NEW BELIEFS EDGE OUT OLD LIMITING BELIEFS
“Even when you change, the old beliefs aren’t just removed like a worn-out hip or knee and replaced with better ones. Instead, the new beliefs take their place alongside the old ones, and as they become stronger, they give you a different way to think, feel, and act.”
A belief is nothing more than a thought we think over and over and look for evidence to support.
How to best shift or change a belief is to realize a belief isn’t always true. Try to figure out what gave a belief that feels harmful legs. Where did it start? Who did you learn it from? When have you experienced contrast that challenges that belief?
My sponsor gave me the book You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay to read after dumping a load of pain from my childhood and into adulthood. I believe she was trying to help me heal. But I don’t think she considered that I would question if I can be healed from my painful past, why couldn’t I be healed from the disease of alcoholism? Why do I have to be labeled to be healed? Why would I keep myself stuck with the identity of an alcoholic?
I’m far more than this experience in my life.
The beliefs that everybody around me preached taught, and lived left me feeling boxed in. I have nowhere to go from here. This can’t be all there is.
As I described in my book Wholly Sober, what if I stop thinking about drinking? What if I shift my focus to how I want to live?
I started feeling my way and forming new beliefs. The most powerful belief of all was I am not who I was.
Who you are now is not who you once were. Who you become is up to who you decide to be.
You can either accept who you are is all there is or challenge yourself to see what else.
Question your beliefs. I believed I was worthless. I believed, despite my success, that I would never be self-sufficient. I believed to survive that I would have to be tough, uncaring, and unfeeling, a bitch. These traits are in contradiction to the essence of who I am. No wonder I needed alcohol to get by.
Undoubtedly, if you are misusing alcohol to accept a situation, lifestyle, or relationship, it stems from a belief that can be replaced with a new empowering and hopeful belief.
What do you believe that is keeping you stuck?
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